Intentional parenting

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  • The Esther Fast: A 3-Day Global Call for Mothers to Pray, Fast, and Rise (March 23–25, 2026)

    In a world filled with uncertainty, pressure, and rapid change, one question continues to echo across generations:

    “Who knows whether you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” – Esther 4:14

    At Intentional Parenting, we believe that this is not just a question for Esther it is a call to mothers today.

    From March 23–25, 2026, we are inviting mothers across the globe to join us for The Esther Fast—a powerful 3-day journey of prayer, fasting, and spiritual alignment for our children, families, and the next generation. This will happen via Whatsapp, you can join the community here

    Why Mothers Need to Rise in This Season?

    We are living in a complex global moment shaped by:

    Economic instability affecting households.

    Political uncertainty across nations. Cultural identity challenges for children.

    The growing influence of digital spaces on young minds.

    Migration and diaspora realities impacting family life.

    As mothers, we are not just raising children—we are raising a generation in the middle of all of this.

    And just like Esther we have been positioned for such a time as this.

    What Is The Esther Fast?

    The Esther Fast is inspired by Esther 4:16, where Esther calls for a fast before stepping into a moment that would change the destiny of her people.

    This is more than a fast from food—it is a time of:

    -Spiritual consecration

    -Intentional prayer for our children.

    – Seeking wisdom as mothers.

    – Standing in the gap for our families and communities.

    Our Journey Through the Book of Esther

    Here at Intentional Parenting, in our 6am prayers, we have been reading and praying through the Book of Esther together as a community since February.

    Through this devotional journey, we have reflected on:

    🙏🏽Courage in uncertain environments

    🙏🏽Wisdom in navigating complex systems

    🙏🏽The power of influence and timing

    🙏🏽The importance of intercession

    We have seen how God can use ordinary women in extraordinary moments to shape history.

    And now, we are stepping into that truth through this fast.

    Inspired by the courage of Esther, the 3-day fast is a call for mothers to rise in prayer, intercession, and spiritual authority for their children, families, and this generation.

    “Go, gather together all the Jews… and fast for me… I will go to the king…” – Esther 4:16

    ✨ PURPOSE OF THE FAST

    This is not just about abstaining from food.

    It is about:

    -Spiritual alignment.

    -Interceding for your children’s future.

    -Seeking wisdom in uncertain times.

    – Standing in the gap for your family and community.

    ⚠️ HOW TO FAST (GUIDELINES)

    Choose what is appropriate for your health and capacity:

    Option 1: 6am–4pm fast (water allowed)

    Option 2: Partial fast, may be skip just one meal eg breakfast finish fasting at 1 or 2pm, or one meal a day / Daniel-style

    Option 3: Social/media fast (reduce noise, increase focus)

    👉 Key principle: Replace what you remove with prayer, Word, and reflection.

    🕊️ POSTURE FOR THE 3 DAYS

    Be intentional (set prayer times)

    Be honest (bring your fears and burdens to God)

    Be expectant (God still responds to intercession)

    📌Create a quiet space daily.

    The goal is simple:

    👉 Create space for God to speak and move.

    Why This Fast Matters Now More Than Ever?

    In the story of Esther silence was not an option.

    Her courage changed the destiny of a generation.

    Today, mothers are facing different battles—but the calling remains the same.

    We are called to:

    🙏🏽Pray intentionally

    ✏️Lead courageously

    🌇Build legacy deliberately

    Join Mothers Around the World 🌏

    This is a global call.

    Whether you are in the UK, Africa, the US, or anywhere across the world—you are invited. You can join the praying community via this link

    Let us come together as mothers to:

    ✨ Pray for our children

    ✨ Stand in the gap

    ✨ Build legacy through faith

    Join the Esther Fast Community

    👉 Join us here

    Corporate prayer meeting

    We hope that you will spend the day in prayer and meditation. We will then meet corporately for corporate prayer at 9pm GMT via zoom. We ordinarily meet at 6am GMT Mondays- Fridays, and we are continuing with the book of Esther.

    9pm during this 3day fast is a time of intense intercession as we cry out for God’s perfect will to be established in our lives. Details of joining the prayer watch will be shared via this Whatsapp link

    Biblical prayer watches

    Final Encouragement

    You may not feel like Esther.

    You may feel tired, uncertain, or stretched.

    But your prayers matter.

    Your voice matters.

    Your motherhood matters.

    And just like Esther

    You may have been positioned

    for such a time as this.

    🔥 DAY 1: CONSECRATION & SURRENDER

    “Positioned Before Purpose”

    📖 Key Scripture:

    Esther 4:14

    Romans 12:1

    Focus:

    Before Esther spoke publicly, she prepared privately.

    Day 1 is about:

    Surrendering control

    Laying down fear, anxiety, and pressure.

    Realigning your heart as a mother and leader.

    Prayer Points:

    Lord, align my heart with Your will for my children. Purify my motives as a mother and leader.Help me release fear about the future. Strengthen my spiritual sensitivity

    🙏 Reflection:

    Where am I operating from fear instead of faith?

    🌍 DAY 2: INTERCESSION FOR OUR CHILDREN & GENERATION

    “Standing in the Gap”

    📖 Key Scripture:

    Esther 4:16

    Ezekiel 22:30

    Focus:

    Like Esther, we stand in the gap—not just for ourselves, but for others.

    This includes today’s global realities:

    Economic instability affecting families. Wars and conflicts shaping children’s futures. Cultural identity confusion. Digital exposure and mental health challenges.Migration and diaspora pressures

    Prayer Points:

    Cover your children spiritually (identity, purpose, protection).

    Pray for their future in an unstable world. Intercede for schools, communities, and nations.

    Pray for peace and justice in global conflicts.

    Ask God to raise children who will stand for truth.

    🙏 Declaration:

    “My children will not be lost in this generation. They will rise with purpose, clarity, and courage.”

    👑 DAY 3: COURAGE, WISDOM & ACTION

    “For Such a Time as This”

    📖 Key Scripture:

    Esther 4:16

    James 1:5

    Focus:

    Esther didn’t just pray—she acted.

    Day 3 is about:

    Courage to speak and lead.

    Wisdom in parenting decisions.

    Boldness in today’s socio-political climate.

    Prayer Points:

    Lord, give me courage to lead my family intentionally. Grant me wisdom in raising children in this culture. Help me use my voice for truth and justice. Show me where I need to take action.

    🙏 Declaration:

    “I am called, equipped, and positioned for such a time as this.”

    💡 PRACTICAL TIPS FOR MOTHERS

    🔑Involve your children (age-appropriate prayer moments)

    📝Journal what God reveals each day.

    🎵 Play worship music to stay spiritually focused.

    🤝Join with another mother for accountability.

    Break your fast with gratitude and prayer

    🌸 CLOSING PRAYER

    Heavenly Father,

    Like Esther, we choose courage over fear. In a time of uncertainty, raise us as mothers who will pray, speak, and lead with wisdom. Cover our children. Stabilise our homes.Give us discernment in a complex world. May our lives reflect Your purpose, and may our children become a generation that stands for truth.

    For such a time as this…

    Amen

    📣Join the Whatsapp community where we commune, share prayer points. devotion, zoom link and more.

    After 3 days of prayer and fasting, join us for the Esther Banquet—a beautiful evening of gratitude, testimonies, and community for mothers. More details about the banquet will be shared in the group.

  • February and March is an Esther Season: An Invitation to Pray as an Intentional Mother

    February often arrives quietly, yet it carries a weight many mothers feel deeply.

    The year has begun, expectations are high, and for many families, the realities of parenting in uncertain economic, social, and global times are settling in. It is in moments like these that faith is not just comforting — it becomes essential.

    This February and March we are inviting mothers to journey through the Book of Esther in prayer — not as a history lesson, but as a guide for intentional, faith-led motherhood for such a time as this.

    Why the Book of Esther Matters for Mothers Today?

    The story of Esther unfolds during a time of political tension, uncertainty, and real threat. She did not live in ease or predictability — yet God positioned her with purpose.

    Esther teaches us that:

    ☘️Preparation often happens in hidden seasons.

    🌿Courage is required when clarity is incomplete.

    🌱Faith sometimes looks like showing up anyway.

    For mothers today, this resonates deeply.

    We are raising children amid:

    -Economic pressure and rising costs.

    -Constant exposure to distressing news.

    – Cultural shifts that challenge values and identity.

    Like Esther, many mothers are quietly asking:

    How do I remain steady, faithful, and intentional in times like these?

    Parenting in Uncertain Times Requires Anchoring, Not Alarm.

    Intentional parenting is not about having all the answers.

    It is about being anchored — emotionally, spiritually, and relationally.

    When mothers pray, reflect, and gather in community:

    ✨Anxiety is replaced with discernment.

    ⭐️Fear gives way to wisdom.

    🌟 Parenting becomes purposeful rather than reactive.

    The Esther story reminds us that God works through women who are willing to pause, pray, and respond with courage — even when the outcome is unknown.

    Introducing the Esther Prayer Journey.

    Throughout February and March, Intentional Parenting is hosting a focused prayer journey for mothers, rooted in the Book of Esther.

    This prayer journey is designed to support mothers who want to:

    1.Begin their days grounded in prayer.

    2.Reflect on faith through the lens of motherhood.

    3.Connect with other women walking similar paths.

    4.Navigate this season with courage and intention

    What the Prayers Include:

    👸🏾Esther-inspired prayer themes

    📖Gentle daily prayer prompts

    🧘🏾‍♀️Community connection through the 6AM Collective Space to reflect, not perform. This whatsapp community is where the true growth happens!

    This is not about perfection. It is about presence.

    A Prayer Guide for the Journey: Called, Covered & Courageous™️

    To support this season of prayer, we have created a mini companion devotional.

    Called, Covered & Courageous™️: A mini Esther Devotional for Intentional Mothers.

    This digital devotional is designed to be used:

    🙏🏽Alongside the 6am prayers.

    🛐During quiet morning moments.

    🤔 As a reflective guide throughout the month.

    Inside the devotional, mothers will find:

    👑Short daily readings from Esther

    🙏🏽Prayers rooted in faith and courage

    😇Reflection prompts through an intentional parenting lens.

    💕Encouragement for mothers navigating uncertainty.

    Many mothers will be using this devotional as their February prayer guide, allowing Scripture and reflection to shape their parenting and perspective throughout the month.

    ➡️ The mini devotional is available to purchase via this link

    You Don’t Have to Walk This Season Alone!

    One of the most powerful lessons from Esther is that she did not act in isolation. She prayed, fasted, and stood supported by her community.

    Motherhood was never meant to be a solo journey.

    If this season feels uncertain,

    If you are carrying quiet questions…

    If you long to parent with faith rather than fear,

    If you are longing for a village,

    If you are equally happy and exited,

    You are invited.

    How to Join the Esther Prayers.

    Joining is simple:

    🌅 Connect with the 6AM Whtasapp community.

    📘 Use the Called, Covered & Courageous devotional as your prayer guide

    👉 Join the prayers via this link

    👉 Purchase the devotional to support your journey here

    For Such a Time as This.

    Esther’s story reminds us that God places women intentionally — within families, communities, and generations — to nurture courage, faith, and hope.

    This is not just another season.

    It is an invitation.

    📌To pray.

    📍To prepare.

    🔑To parent intentionally.

    For such a time as this.

  • Parenting support and services

    Support for Parents Who Want Calm, Confidence and Connection.

    Parenting is one of the most important roles we hold — yet many parents are left navigating it alone, unsure whether they’re doing “enough” or responding in the right way.

    Intentional Parenting was created to change that.

    I’m Fadzai, a parenting consultant, safeguarding lead and community builder. Through Intentional Parenting, I support parents who want to raise emotionally secure, resilient children while building calm, connected family life.

    This space is for parents who are not looking for perfection — but for clarity, confidence and practical support that fits real life.

    What Is Intentional Parenting?

    Intentional parenting is about making thoughtful choices, even in the middle of busy, messy family life.

    It’s about:

    Understanding behaviour rather than reacting to it. Strengthening communication and emotional connection. Parenting in line with your values, not pressure or fear. Creating safe, supportive environments where children can thrive.

    At Intentional Parenting, support is compassionate, practical and grounded in real-world parenting challenges.

    How I Support Parents

    My work focuses on four key areas of parenting support:

    🌿 Emotional Wellbeing & Behaviour

    Helping parents understand emotions, manage challenging behaviour and reduce overwhelm at home.

    🗣 Communication & Connection

    Supporting stronger relationships through calm communication, boundaries and repair after conflict.

    🧭 Intentional Parenting & Family Life

    Helping parents move from reactive parenting to intentional routines, rhythms and values-led family life.

    🛡 Safeguarding & Family Safety

    Supporting parents to confidently protect their children’s wellbeing through everyday safeguarding and early support.

    These services are offered through 1:1 parenting coaching, group cohorts, community spaces and workshops.

    A Different Kind of Parenting Support.

    Intentional Parenting is not about quick fixes or one-size-fits-all advice.

    It is about:

    Walking alongside parents. Creating space for reflection and growth. Offering tools that work in everyday family life. Supporting parents before challenges become crises.

    Parents come for support at all stages — whether navigating early childhood, school transitions, adolescence, or simply wanting to parent with more intention.

    Join the Intentional Parenting Community

    Alongside coaching and services, Fadzai also offers community-based support through spaces such as The 6AM Collective — a reflective parenting community offering connection, prayer, learning cohorts and shared growth.

    You’re welcome to engage at your own pace, in a way that supports your family.

    Start Here

    If you’re ready to explore parenting support that feels grounded, respectful and practical, you’re in the right place.

    👉 Explore parenting coaching : here

    👉 Join the community :Whatsapp

    👉 Read the latest blog posts on this platform

    You don’t have to do parenting alone — and you don’t have to do it perfectly.

  • Miles for Mind

    2026 loading bolder, strategic and impactful! Watch the space

    Miles for Minds: Walk & Thrive – Migrant Mental Health Awareness Challenge

    We are really excited to have you join us for the walking challenge this May!

    Walking challenge:

    In a bid to encourage better mental health, we are encouraging MIGRANT parents to participate in the 10k steps a day challenge. You can add this up through jogging, skipping etc. As parents the struggles of raising children in diaspora can impact greatly on your overall well being.

    For those of us who are migrants, the challenges with our mental health is even greater. The stresses of travel and living in a different culture and society cannot be under estimated. World Health Organisation advocates for good mental well being for migrants and refugees, WHO.

    Walking as a form of exercise is well researched to aid good mental wellness. We have chosen walking as its low impact and we want to incorporate meditation into that walking space. More details on the benefits of walking are here

    We are keen to hear and engage fathers, migrant men on this challenge.How are they coping with stresses of living abroad? Please do invite the male figures in your life. For ideas/ comments/ suggestions do get in touch here

    Campaign Objective:

    To promote mental wellness among migrants through daily walking, peer connection, and storytelling, while raising awareness and reducing stigma around migrant mental health issues.

    Target Audience:

    Migrants and refugees in the UK, African and ethnic minority communities, Mental health allies, professionals, and local councils Employers and community organisations.

    Duration:

    1st – 31st May (Mental Health Awareness Month)

    Core Activities:

    Daily Walking Challenge: Participants aim to walk at least 5,000–10,000 steps a day. You can track and share progress via our Strava community or WhatsApp group using the hashtag #MilesForMinds.

    You can join the walking challenge from anywhere. We encourage you to find times that suit you and share your step count with us for motivation and encouragement on strava . You can also join our Facebook page if you prefer.

    On the last Saturday of the month which is 30th, weather permitting we are meeting in Buckinghamshire to celebrate our wins! More details to be shared on Strava.

    2- Meditation Journal

    Yes we have taken to journaling this month as well as part of mental health first aid. For those who believe in the power of God’s word, this is a resource for you. Click here to download the 31day journal that we will be using throughout this month.

    The journal is there to prompt you to take 5mins and jot down how the day went for you. Please use this as part of self care. It’s key to CREATE that 5mins to write down how your day has been.

    We want to demonstrate to our children how we take care of ourselves and that we take mental wellness seriously. Identifying and naming your feelings and emotions is paramount in taking care of your mental health.

    Affirmations

    Others may prefer affirmations to journaling. Feel free to use those above or find an alternative.

    3- MEET UPS

    We are meeting up on the 24th in Milton keynes for a garden workshop. Registration is mandatory and closes on the 15th of May to help with planning. If interested, do register via link or QR code below.

    4- Group walking

    We are going to be using Strava to encourage each other, have a lead board and share some insight. Can’t wait! Please do sign up here and get acquainted to our Strava group ; Miles for Mind.. 😍

    5- Community

    Intentional Parenting UK is home to BOLD and courageous parents. Our 6am community is a place of growing and drawing strength from the giver of all that is good is perfect. We believe in creating SAFE spaces for parents to flourish and that takes intentionality and a willingness to WORK!

    We welcome parents with a heart of service, open minded and who DARE to live unapologetic in their convictions and beliefs. We are not a platform for people who want to watch/ observe or just sit, be prepared to put in the work and this means engaging with other parents contributing to this growing community.

    Check out the rest of our blog on all thing intentional Parenting.

    📌This year promises to be amazing. Do express interest here and will send you the strava link as well to join the walking community.

    Do follow us on facebook and instagram

    Every blessing

    Fadzi x

  • Loving your children

    As a working migrant community, creating time to bond with your children is very important.

    Our children are competing for our attention with Shifts, black tax, social media, our mobile phones parental fatigue and stress. So what can we do?

    Below are 5 tips that I have used myself and many other parents I work with , with positive results.

    1. Establish a Morning or Evening Ritual

    • Use the time before or after your shifts to bond. For example, have breakfast together or create a bedtime routine like reading a story, talking about the day, or sharing a quick prayer or song. This creates consistency and helps your child feel connected. Eat at the dinner table with no TV on. For those who work long shifts, connect via whatsapp, face time etc. Have a virtual catch up , negotiate your break times so you can connect with your children.

    2. Maximize Your Days Off

    • Dedicate your off days to family-focused activities like visiting parks, museums, or simply cooking and eating together. Plan these activities ahead of time to make the most of them. Involve your child in choosing the activities to build anticipation and excitement. Most National Trust places are very good for spending time as a family. More detail here

    3. Incorporate Quality Moments into Everyday Tasks

    • Turn chores or errands into fun bonding opportunities. For instance, involve your children in meal prep or grocery shopping by assigning them small tasks, like picking ingredients or organizing items at home. Play music while cooking, share your childhood playlist with them and what it was like growing up. Let them share their own playlist as well, who is their favourite artist? You will be killing so many birds with this activity from family history, present culture to understanding each others likes. Enjoy!

    4. Use Technology Thoughtfully

    • If you work long shifts or overnight, use video calls to check in during breaks or before bedtime. Leave a heartfelt message or short video for them to watch when they wake up if you’re not there.

    5. Focus on Active Listening During Limited Time

    • When you’re with your children, give them your full attention. Ask open-ended questions about their day and feelings. Avoid distractions like your phone, so they feel valued and understood. Here at intentional parenting we did a challenge a few years ago where we encouraged parents to leave their phones upstairs the first hour they get home from work. This challenge yielded incredible results. Would you try it?,

    6. It’s very important to extend grace and compassion to yourself as a parent during tough seasons of parenting. May be you are a lone parent, establish a community around you to help. Be clear and communicate your VISION as a parent so your children can understand and marry into it. If you need help to put strategies in place , speak to someone or just get some advice , get in touch with Fadzai

    Balancing work and parenting is challenging, but intentional efforts can help you stay close to your children and nurture their emotional well-being.

    What else can you add to this?

    Every blessing

    Fadzai x

  • Self acceptance

    Today our journal reading was on Self acceptance.

    Self-acceptance is a crucial aspect of mental and emotional well-being. Here are some strategies for fostering self-acceptance, along with relevant Bible verses for spiritual encouragement:

    1. Practice Self-Compassion

    Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend.

    • Bible Verse: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32

    2. Focus on Your Strengths

    Identify and celebrate your strengths and achievements, rather than dwelling on weaknesses or failures.

    • Bible Verse: “I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” – Philippians 4:13

    3. Embrace Your Uniqueness

    Recognize that you are unique and that your individuality is a gift.

    • Bible Verse: “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” – Psalm 139:13-14

    4. Forgive Yourself

    Let go of past mistakes and forgive yourself, understanding that everyone makes errors.

    • Bible Verse: “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” – 1 John 1:9

    5. Practice Gratitude

    Regularly reflect on and express gratitude for the positive aspects of your life.

    • Bible Verse: “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:18

    6. Set Realistic Goals

    Set achievable goals and celebrate your progress, no matter how small.

    • Bible Verse: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11

    7. Surround Yourself with Supportive People

    Build a community of friends and family who uplift and encourage you. Our intentional parenting whatsapp group is a community of hardworking, committed mothers who are willing to build a village.

    • Bible Verse: “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:11

    8. Take Care of Your Body

    Engage in activities that promote physical health, as this can enhance your mental and emotional well-being. This may we have embarked on #10kintentionalwalk challenge in aid of our mental health.

    • Bible Verse: “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own.” – 1 Corinthians 6:19

    9. Engage in Mindfulness and Prayer

    Practice mindfulness and prayer to center yourself and connect with your spirituality. Our 6am club is a cornerstone and safe space to start the day. We do prayers Monday- Friday 6am-6:30am.

    • Bible Verse: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” – Philippians 4:6

    10. Accept God’s Unconditional Love

    Remember that God’s love for you is unconditional and everlasting.

    • Bible Verse: “Neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” – Romans 8:39

    By integrating these strategies and reflecting on these Bible verses, you can nurture a sense of self-acceptance that is rooted in both personal growth and spiritual understanding.

    Hope this helps.

    stay blessed

    stay intentional 🌱

  • Hey Q

    Prayer for my son on your birthday


    Becoming your mama was and continues to be my greatest legacy. Growing together has been exhilarating, exciting and challenging at most times. Can’t wait for what the future holds. Intentional parenting is you son. Thank you for the many lessons learnt that I get to share with other parents. Thank you for your patience as I continually learn how to mother you better. Thank you for your understanding that at most times, I am winging it with you. Thank you for the grace you extend when I am able to get it right with your sister. I love being your mama.
    So today on your birthday I pray that you continually know who you are in God’s eyes. I pray that your light will shine brighter before your generation. I pray that you never have to doubt yourself, second guess Gods purpose and capabilities that are in you. I pray that you will continue to rest in the love we have for you as your parents. I ask God to lead and guide you all the days of your life. Above all I pray that you will walk in Gods purpose, utilising all the gifts and talents that God has given you. I pray for your friends who are your greatest social capita, that they would love you sincerely, be there for you faithfully and that they would encourage you in all things. Quinton, I pray that in all things you will allow your faith to speak louder than your fears.

    Thank you for being an exceptional man of God. A man of integrity and honour. Your diligence and fortitude is admirable. Your mind is beautiful son. I am deeply honoured to not only love but raise you. I promise to continuously learn and dedicate my life to being your steward and Gods servant into your life.

    Love you always MaiQ.

  • Facebook live

    Thank you very much to all those who joined us at 3pm GMT. We were talking the challenges of parenting and Below is a short summary of some of the take-aways from the session.

    ✨Remember in our parenting journey, connection with our children is key. Be available mentally, emotionally and physically.

    ✨Prioritise your children. Let your diary and commitments reflect that. Remember with children love is spelt TIME.

    ✨It’s ok and totally acceptable as an african parent to apologise to your children when you get things wrong.

    🌟Faith community leaders, please have a heart for families. Do not hide under political correctness. Remember ‘what would Jesus do?’ and do just that. Consider the single parent homes with the heart of our Lord Jesus.


    We explored in depth the issue of supporting single parent homes and providing mentorship for vulnerable young men. There were issues around married men/pastors and leaders being fearful of supporting a single mother and worrying about being accused of all sorts of things. I concluded that if the CHURCH does not step in to have an impact on the congregants, someone else will and many a times these are bad guys that we don’t want near our children/ community. If we look at the county lines model; the drug dealer simply befriends and entice our children with gifts and promise of a bright future. We can adopt the same model. If youth pastors/ leaders took the same interest in our children, understand what they like, their fears, vulnerability, I believe we will win SOME of them over.

    We encouraged faith communities to have properly, well structured programs with safeguarding processes in place to offer mentorship programs.

    Jesus was very controversial in most of his relationships, driven by compassion and love for the marginalised as well as vulnerable. Remember the Samaritan woman at well? She had a thing with men yet Jesus risked all that.

    For parents struggling with children, please seek help. Don’t stew at home. There is a lot of help available from local authorities to charities such as Migrant Family Support and Father 2 father

    For more in-depth conversation, listen to link below:

    Remember you are not alone 💕

  • The blessing that makes one rich and adds no sorrow ❤

    What a privilege it is to wake up to God’s promises!

    I was looking through the photos and came across this family photo that was taken last August 2016 in Copenhagen. It melted my heart. God has been good and gracious to us.


    It has not always been like this. As a family, we have had our share of ups and downs, we have struggled as well as felt overwhelmed. We have also felt like giving up on each other as a couple as well as sending our children to be with grandparents in Zimbabwe.

    Life is challenging, family life is complex. For us parenting in diaspora made the whole mix extremely complex. The lack of social support and extended family makes it challenging. Our expectations for each other and our children change and keep on changing. That’s growth right?

    Growth is a great thing as long as you do it together as a family. It’s very easy to grow apart especially here in UK due to work patterns and economic demands coupled by Black Tax. As our children have grown, we have decided to be an INTENTIONAL couple. We normally have a scheduled time daily, no phones and just us 2, to catch up on each other. I have taken working hours that are more family friendly as well so I can be home with the kids. It takes sacrifice and communicating your vision to each other as a family and to the wider extended family circles. Happy couples make great parents.

    The greatest thing we did is, we decided to partner with God. We realised we just couldn’t make it on our own. There is so much peace that one has when you handover something to someone else, it becomes their issue and agenda.

    I remember when our amazing daughter was born. It was hubby’s first hand experience of looking after a baby all by himself.  Our wonderful son was born in Zim with all the help from extended family and nannies. The first day I left the three of them, I cried all the way to the nursing placement. I was worried about how hubby would cope with the baby as he was working  nights as well. We had decided that I would stay on the nursing course despite all health and safety issues from University and Occupational health. Indeed, I went to Uni on a Friday and gave birth on the Sunday.  Being on 3year student visa, we didn’t want to jeopardise that. I returned to placement when baby was only two weeks old. Those are the unspoken sacrifices that migrants make due to government policies. Those who have experienced Home office service, beaurocracy and the extortius fees know what I mean.

    No words can describe what a blessing our daughter is, incredibly strong willed, feisty, loving, caring, smart and definitely a daddy’s girl. I learnt to be focused and strategic as a mum of 2 and mature student. Since giving birth, all my assignments were completed with A grades. I couldn’t afford to fail. That was followed by passing my much needed driving lessons. i had to learn to drive and learn FAST as I was catching 3 buses to and from Uni!

    God promises us that He cares and loves our families more than anything. That is the confidence we have.

    It takes a lot of faith and trust to believe and see the promises of God come to pass. Many a times, things may seem to get worse before they get better. As a family, we are encouraged by some of our answered prayers. We also know some families personally, who are walking in Gods promises and that inspires us. We continue to hope and trust in Him. The verse below summarises our mission as a family. Looking to the Lord for help always. We love the assurance in “never”, what a promise!!

    “Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame”. ‭‭Psalm‬ ‭34:5‬ ‭NIV‬‬

    This is our journey, hope you have been inspired. Would love to hear how your journey as a family is panning out.

    Be hopeful, always ❤