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  • The Esther Fast: A 3-Day Global Call for Mothers to Pray, Fast, and Rise (March 23–25, 2026)

    In a world filled with uncertainty, pressure, and rapid change, one question continues to echo across generations:

    “Who knows whether you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” – Esther 4:14

    At Intentional Parenting, we believe that this is not just a question for Esther it is a call to mothers today.

    From March 23–25, 2026, we are inviting mothers across the globe to join us for The Esther Fast—a powerful 3-day journey of prayer, fasting, and spiritual alignment for our children, families, and the next generation. This will happen via Whatsapp, you can join the community here

    Why Mothers Need to Rise in This Season?

    We are living in a complex global moment shaped by:

    Economic instability affecting households.

    Political uncertainty across nations. Cultural identity challenges for children.

    The growing influence of digital spaces on young minds.

    Migration and diaspora realities impacting family life.

    As mothers, we are not just raising children—we are raising a generation in the middle of all of this.

    And just like Esther we have been positioned for such a time as this.

    What Is The Esther Fast?

    The Esther Fast is inspired by Esther 4:16, where Esther calls for a fast before stepping into a moment that would change the destiny of her people.

    This is more than a fast from food—it is a time of:

    -Spiritual consecration

    -Intentional prayer for our children.

    – Seeking wisdom as mothers.

    – Standing in the gap for our families and communities.

    Our Journey Through the Book of Esther

    Here at Intentional Parenting, in our 6am prayers, we have been reading and praying through the Book of Esther together as a community since February.

    Through this devotional journey, we have reflected on:

    🙏🏽Courage in uncertain environments

    🙏🏽Wisdom in navigating complex systems

    🙏🏽The power of influence and timing

    🙏🏽The importance of intercession

    We have seen how God can use ordinary women in extraordinary moments to shape history.

    And now, we are stepping into that truth through this fast.

    Inspired by the courage of Esther, the 3-day fast is a call for mothers to rise in prayer, intercession, and spiritual authority for their children, families, and this generation.

    “Go, gather together all the Jews… and fast for me… I will go to the king…” – Esther 4:16

    ✨ PURPOSE OF THE FAST

    This is not just about abstaining from food.

    It is about:

    -Spiritual alignment.

    -Interceding for your children’s future.

    -Seeking wisdom in uncertain times.

    – Standing in the gap for your family and community.

    ⚠️ HOW TO FAST (GUIDELINES)

    Choose what is appropriate for your health and capacity:

    Option 1: 6am–4pm fast (water allowed)

    Option 2: Partial fast, may be skip just one meal eg breakfast finish fasting at 1 or 2pm, or one meal a day / Daniel-style

    Option 3: Social/media fast (reduce noise, increase focus)

    👉 Key principle: Replace what you remove with prayer, Word, and reflection.

    🕊️ POSTURE FOR THE 3 DAYS

    Be intentional (set prayer times)

    Be honest (bring your fears and burdens to God)

    Be expectant (God still responds to intercession)

    📌Create a quiet space daily.

    The goal is simple:

    👉 Create space for God to speak and move.

    Why This Fast Matters Now More Than Ever?

    In the story of Esther silence was not an option.

    Her courage changed the destiny of a generation.

    Today, mothers are facing different battles—but the calling remains the same.

    We are called to:

    🙏🏽Pray intentionally

    ✏️Lead courageously

    🌇Build legacy deliberately

    Join Mothers Around the World 🌏

    This is a global call.

    Whether you are in the UK, Africa, the US, or anywhere across the world—you are invited. You can join the praying community via this link

    Let us come together as mothers to:

    ✨ Pray for our children

    ✨ Stand in the gap

    ✨ Build legacy through faith

    Join the Esther Fast Community

    👉 Join us here

    Corporate prayer meeting

    We hope that you will spend the day in prayer and meditation. We will then meet corporately for corporate prayer at 9pm GMT via zoom. We ordinarily meet at 6am GMT Mondays- Fridays, and we are continuing with the book of Esther.

    9pm during this 3day fast is a time of intense intercession as we cry out for God’s perfect will to be established in our lives. Details of joining the prayer watch will be shared via this Whatsapp link

    Biblical prayer watches

    Final Encouragement

    You may not feel like Esther.

    You may feel tired, uncertain, or stretched.

    But your prayers matter.

    Your voice matters.

    Your motherhood matters.

    And just like Esther

    You may have been positioned

    for such a time as this.

    🔥 DAY 1: CONSECRATION & SURRENDER

    “Positioned Before Purpose”

    📖 Key Scripture:

    Esther 4:14

    Romans 12:1

    Focus:

    Before Esther spoke publicly, she prepared privately.

    Day 1 is about:

    Surrendering control

    Laying down fear, anxiety, and pressure.

    Realigning your heart as a mother and leader.

    Prayer Points:

    Lord, align my heart with Your will for my children. Purify my motives as a mother and leader.Help me release fear about the future. Strengthen my spiritual sensitivity

    🙏 Reflection:

    Where am I operating from fear instead of faith?

    🌍 DAY 2: INTERCESSION FOR OUR CHILDREN & GENERATION

    “Standing in the Gap”

    📖 Key Scripture:

    Esther 4:16

    Ezekiel 22:30

    Focus:

    Like Esther, we stand in the gap—not just for ourselves, but for others.

    This includes today’s global realities:

    Economic instability affecting families. Wars and conflicts shaping children’s futures. Cultural identity confusion. Digital exposure and mental health challenges.Migration and diaspora pressures

    Prayer Points:

    Cover your children spiritually (identity, purpose, protection).

    Pray for their future in an unstable world. Intercede for schools, communities, and nations.

    Pray for peace and justice in global conflicts.

    Ask God to raise children who will stand for truth.

    🙏 Declaration:

    “My children will not be lost in this generation. They will rise with purpose, clarity, and courage.”

    👑 DAY 3: COURAGE, WISDOM & ACTION

    “For Such a Time as This”

    📖 Key Scripture:

    Esther 4:16

    James 1:5

    Focus:

    Esther didn’t just pray—she acted.

    Day 3 is about:

    Courage to speak and lead.

    Wisdom in parenting decisions.

    Boldness in today’s socio-political climate.

    Prayer Points:

    Lord, give me courage to lead my family intentionally. Grant me wisdom in raising children in this culture. Help me use my voice for truth and justice. Show me where I need to take action.

    🙏 Declaration:

    “I am called, equipped, and positioned for such a time as this.”

    💡 PRACTICAL TIPS FOR MOTHERS

    🔑Involve your children (age-appropriate prayer moments)

    📝Journal what God reveals each day.

    🎵 Play worship music to stay spiritually focused.

    🤝Join with another mother for accountability.

    Break your fast with gratitude and prayer

    🌸 CLOSING PRAYER

    Heavenly Father,

    Like Esther, we choose courage over fear. In a time of uncertainty, raise us as mothers who will pray, speak, and lead with wisdom. Cover our children. Stabilise our homes.Give us discernment in a complex world. May our lives reflect Your purpose, and may our children become a generation that stands for truth.

    For such a time as this…

    Amen

    📣Join the Whatsapp community where we commune, share prayer points. devotion, zoom link and more.

    After 3 days of prayer and fasting, join us for the Esther Banquet—a beautiful evening of gratitude, testimonies, and community for mothers. More details about the banquet will be shared in the group.

  • International Women’s Day 2026: Why Gender Parity Starts at Home

    As we approach International Women’s Day 2026, championed globally by UN Women, conversations around gender equality will fill conference rooms, classrooms, and social media feeds.

    But the most powerful place to advance gender parity is not on a stage.

    It is at the dinner table.

    At Intentional Parenting, our mission is clear:

    Empowering parents, building legacies.

    And legacy begins in the home.

    Why Gender Parity Still Matters in 2026?

    Despite progress worldwide, gender inequality persists in:

    💰Pay gaps and economic participation

    ✏️Leadership representation

    🏛️Access to capital and property

    💼Disproportionate unpaid care work

    🧺Cultural norms that limit ambition

    For African migrant families, these inequalities intersect with:

    -Migration pressures.

    -Cultural preservation tensions

    -Racial inequity

    -Economic rebuilding in a new country

    Without intentional parenting, children absorb these patterns as default settings.

    Key Gender Inequality Challenges Facing Many African Families.

    We must approach this conversation with honesty and cultural sensitivity.

    1. Rigid Gender Role Conditioning

    Many African households still operate with traditional role divisions:

    Girls manage domestic responsibilities.

    Boys assume leadership expectations.

    Daughters are trained for marriageability.

    Sons are prepared for authority.

    While tradition carries beauty and identity, unexamined roles can restrict potential.

    2. Unequal Domestic Labour

    In many dual-income African households, mothers still shoulder:

    Emotional labour, household management and primary childcare.

    📌Children internalise what they see.

    If imbalance looks normal, it becomes normal.

    3. Limiting Narratives Around Ambition

    Girls may be subtly discouraged from pursuing:

    STEM careers, financial independence or leadership roles.

    Meanwhile, boys may be discouraged from:

    Emotional expression, nurturing roles and creative interests.

    Both suffer when identity is boxed in.

    4. Financial Dependency Expectations

    Some daughters are raised with the assumption that economic stability will come through marriage rather than personal capacity.

    In diaspora contexts where wealth-building requires resilience and strategy, this mindset limits generational progress.

    Why Advancing Gender Parity Strengthens African Legacy-Building Families?

    Gender parity is not a Western concept. It is a strategic necessity.

    1. It Strengthens Economic Stability

    When both sons and daughters are empowered to thrive economically, families build wealth faster and more sustainably.

    2. It Builds Emotionally Intelligent Sons

    A: Boys raised in equitable homes are:

    -More emotionally secure

    -More respectful in relationships.

    -Better prepared for partnership

    3. It Raises Confident Daughters

    B: Girls who experience fairness at home:

    Negotiate with confidence

    Aim higher academically and professionally

    Expect mutual respect in relationships.

    4. It Aligns With Faith and Justice

    For Christian families, Scripture affirms dignity and purpose for both men and women.

    Equality is not rebellion. It is stewardship.

    Practical Ways Parents Can Advance Gender Parity at Home.

    Intentional parenting requires action, not aspiration.

    Here are practical strategies for families:

    1. Rotate Household Responsibilities

    Ensure:

    Sons cook and clean regularly. Daughters manage budgeting discussions. Chores are shared equitably.

    Competence should not be gendered.

    2. Model Partnership in Marriage

    Children learn equality by observation.

    Let fathers nurture openly. Let mothers lead decisively. Make respect visible and mutual.

    3. Eliminate Limiting Language

    Replace phrases like:

    “Boys don’t cry.” “That’s not ladylike.”

    With:

    “You are capable.” “You are responsible.” “You are strong and kind.”

    4. Invest Equally in Education

    Encourage daughters in STEM.

    Encourage sons in caregiving and communication.

    Every child deserves full access to their potential.

    5. Teach Financial Literacy to Both Genders

    Open savings accounts.

    Discuss investments.

    Teach budgeting.

    Financial empowerment protects future generations.

    6. Re-examine Cultural Practices Thoughtfully

    Ask:

    What strengthens our family? What limits our children’s potential? What needs adapting?

    Legacy is preserved through wisdom, not rigidity.

    Introducing the “Give to Gain” Campaign for IWD 2026.

    This International Women’s Day, we are calling parents globally to participate in the Give to Gain Campaign here

    Give:

    ⭐️Intentional conversations

    🌟Shared responsibility

    ✨Equal opportunity

    🤩Conscious modelling

    Gain:

    🌼Confident daughters

    🌻Secure sons

    🌵Stronger marriages

    🌱Sustainable legacy

    This is not a one-month initiative.

    It is a generational shift.

    A Global Call to Parents.

    If we want to build strong families, we must raise children prepared for partnership, leadership, and equity.

    Gender parity begins at home.

    And legacy is built by design.

    Join the Intentional Parenting Movement.

    This March, don’t just post about equality.

    Parent it.

    Join the Give to Gain Campaign here and commit to advancing gender parity not just for IWD 2026, but as a lifelong parenting principle.

    Together, we can raise a generation that does not inherit inequality — but rewrites it.

  • Why Mothers Need Other Mothers: The Power of Community, Faith & Intentional Connection

    Motherhood was never meant to be a solo journey.

    From the earliest biblical narratives to our modern-day parenting realities, mothers have always thrived best in community — supported, understood, prayed for, and encouraged by other women walking a similar path.

    In a fast-paced world where many mothers feel isolated, overwhelmed, or stretched thin between family, work, faith, and cultural expectations, intentional connection with other mothers is no longer a luxury — it is essential.

    The Hidden Cost of Isolated Motherhood:

    Many mothers silently carry:

    💚 Emotional fatigue and mental overload.

    💚 Guilt for taking time for themselves.

    💚 A sense of loneliness, even while surrounded by people.

    💚 The pressure to “hold it all together”

    Yet Scripture reminds us:

    “Two are better than one… If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” — Ecclesiastes 4:9–10

    When mothers walk alone, they become vulnerable to burnout.

    When mothers walk together, they become stronger, wiser, and more grounded.

    Why Mothers Need Time With Other Mothers.

    Spending time with other mothers provides something uniquely powerful:

    🎀 Shared Understanding

    Other mothers get it — the sleepless nights, the prayers whispered over children, the juggling of faith, family, and purpose.

    🎀 Emotional & Spiritual Support

    Safe spaces allow mothers to speak freely, laugh deeply, cry honestly, and be prayed for without judgment.

    🎀 Role Modelling Intentional Parenting

    When mothers gather intentionally, they exchange wisdom, faith practices, cultural values, and legacy-building tools that strengthen families.

    🎀 Renewal & Joy

    🔑 Joy is not frivolous — it is fuel.

    A refreshed mother parents from a place of peace, not depletion.

    Faith, Fellowship & Intentional Parenting.

    At Intentional Parenting, we believe:

    Strong families are built when parents are supported, spiritually rooted, and emotionally healthy.

    Faith-based motherhood is not about perfection — it’s about connection:

    Connection to God.

    Connection to purpose.

    Connection to other mothers

    Just as Jesus surrounded Himself with community, mothers also need spaces where they are seen not just as caregivers, but as women with identity, value, and calling.

    Connected and Blooming™️: More Than a Lunch — A Sacred Pause

    This February, we invite you to a 2-Course Lunch — not just as a social event, but as an intentional moment of rest, joy, and sisterhood.

    🌸 You’re Invited: Connected and blooming™️ 2-Course Lunch

    📅 Date: 14 February 2026

    📍 Location: Aston Clinton, Bucks

    👗 Dress Code: Your best pink, red, or florals.

    This gathering is designed for mothers who:

    -Value faith and intentional parenting.

    -Desire meaningful connection beyond surface-level conversations.

    – Understand that rest, joy, and community are part of God’s design.

    We will eat together, laugh together, and create space to simply be — without pressure, performance, or guilt.

    “They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts.” — Acts 2:46

    Why Saying “Yes” Matters?

    When mothers prioritise community:

    ✨ Children benefit from emotionally healthier parents.

    ⭐️ Homes become more peaceful.

    🙏🏽 Faith is strengthened through shared encouragement.

    🌟 Legacy is built intentionally, not accidentally

    Choosing to attend gatherings like this is not selfish — it is stewardship of the mother God has called you to be.

    Join the Community for Full Details.

    More details about the Lunch and future gatherings are shared inside the community, where we continue to support mothers through faith-based resources, events, and intentional parenting conversations.

    Final Encouragement

    You were never meant to mother alone.

    You were meant to walk with others, grow with others, and be strengthened through shared faith and fellowship.

    Let’s continue building families, legacies, and communities — together. Our Tales from home is another safe space for mums to come and just rest their shoulders through shared experiences. More details can be found here

    You can also see 2025 meet ups here

    Every blessing

    Yours in mothering trenches with you

    Fadzai x

  • February and March is an Esther Season: An Invitation to Pray as an Intentional Mother

    February often arrives quietly, yet it carries a weight many mothers feel deeply.

    The year has begun, expectations are high, and for many families, the realities of parenting in uncertain economic, social, and global times are settling in. It is in moments like these that faith is not just comforting — it becomes essential.

    This February and March we are inviting mothers to journey through the Book of Esther in prayer — not as a history lesson, but as a guide for intentional, faith-led motherhood for such a time as this.

    Why the Book of Esther Matters for Mothers Today?

    The story of Esther unfolds during a time of political tension, uncertainty, and real threat. She did not live in ease or predictability — yet God positioned her with purpose.

    Esther teaches us that:

    ☘️Preparation often happens in hidden seasons.

    🌿Courage is required when clarity is incomplete.

    🌱Faith sometimes looks like showing up anyway.

    For mothers today, this resonates deeply.

    We are raising children amid:

    -Economic pressure and rising costs.

    -Constant exposure to distressing news.

    – Cultural shifts that challenge values and identity.

    Like Esther, many mothers are quietly asking:

    How do I remain steady, faithful, and intentional in times like these?

    Parenting in Uncertain Times Requires Anchoring, Not Alarm.

    Intentional parenting is not about having all the answers.

    It is about being anchored — emotionally, spiritually, and relationally.

    When mothers pray, reflect, and gather in community:

    ✨Anxiety is replaced with discernment.

    ⭐️Fear gives way to wisdom.

    🌟 Parenting becomes purposeful rather than reactive.

    The Esther story reminds us that God works through women who are willing to pause, pray, and respond with courage — even when the outcome is unknown.

    Introducing the Esther Prayer Journey.

    Throughout February and March, Intentional Parenting is hosting a focused prayer journey for mothers, rooted in the Book of Esther.

    This prayer journey is designed to support mothers who want to:

    1.Begin their days grounded in prayer.

    2.Reflect on faith through the lens of motherhood.

    3.Connect with other women walking similar paths.

    4.Navigate this season with courage and intention

    What the Prayers Include:

    👸🏾Esther-inspired prayer themes

    📖Gentle daily prayer prompts

    🧘🏾‍♀️Community connection through the 6AM Collective Space to reflect, not perform. This whatsapp community is where the true growth happens!

    This is not about perfection. It is about presence.

    A Prayer Guide for the Journey: Called, Covered & Courageous™️

    To support this season of prayer, we have created a mini companion devotional.

    Called, Covered & Courageous™️: A mini Esther Devotional for Intentional Mothers.

    This digital devotional is designed to be used:

    🙏🏽Alongside the 6am prayers.

    🛐During quiet morning moments.

    🤔 As a reflective guide throughout the month.

    Inside the devotional, mothers will find:

    👑Short daily readings from Esther

    🙏🏽Prayers rooted in faith and courage

    😇Reflection prompts through an intentional parenting lens.

    💕Encouragement for mothers navigating uncertainty.

    Many mothers will be using this devotional as their February prayer guide, allowing Scripture and reflection to shape their parenting and perspective throughout the month.

    ➡️ The mini devotional is available to purchase via this link

    You Don’t Have to Walk This Season Alone!

    One of the most powerful lessons from Esther is that she did not act in isolation. She prayed, fasted, and stood supported by her community.

    Motherhood was never meant to be a solo journey.

    If this season feels uncertain,

    If you are carrying quiet questions…

    If you long to parent with faith rather than fear,

    If you are longing for a village,

    If you are equally happy and exited,

    You are invited.

    How to Join the Esther Prayers.

    Joining is simple:

    🌅 Connect with the 6AM Whtasapp community.

    📘 Use the Called, Covered & Courageous devotional as your prayer guide

    👉 Join the prayers via this link

    👉 Purchase the devotional to support your journey here

    For Such a Time as This.

    Esther’s story reminds us that God places women intentionally — within families, communities, and generations — to nurture courage, faith, and hope.

    This is not just another season.

    It is an invitation.

    📌To pray.

    📍To prepare.

    🔑To parent intentionally.

    For such a time as this.

  • ROOTED MEN™: Why African Fathers in the UK Must Redefine Fatherhood, Identity & Legacy

    African Fatherhood in the UK: A Quiet Struggle

    For many African fathers living in the UK, fatherhood comes with unspoken pressure.

    You are expected to provide.

    To stay strong.

    To hold culture together.

    To raise children who succeed in a society very different from the one that raised you.

    Yet many fathers are doing this without support, guidance, or safe spaces to talk.

    At Intentional Parenting, we see this clearly:

    African fathers are not absent — they are overburdened and under-supported.

    This is why we created ROOTED MEN™: Fatherhood, Identity & Legacy in the Diaspora.

    Why African Fathers Need a Different Conversation?

    Fatherhood in the UK requires more than authority and provision.

    It requires presence, emotional intelligence, and cultural adaptation.

    Many African fathers are navigating:

    -Cultural discipline vs UK safeguarding laws

    -Provider pressure and financial stress

    -Emotional distance learned from their own upbringing

    -Identity tension: “Am I raising my children the African way or the British way?”

    -Raising confident children without losing cultural values.

    These realities demand a new kind of fatherhood — one that is rooted, intentional, and responsive.

    From Provider to Present: Redefining African Fatherhood.

    Traditionally, respect for fathers was built on fear, distance, and unquestioned authority.

    But research — and real family experience — shows that today’s children thrive on connection before correction.

    Being a strong father in the UK means:

    ⭐️Listening as much as instructing

    💕Regulating anger before disciplining.

    ✨Creating emotional safety, not silence.

    🇿🇼Modelling values, not just enforcing rules.

    This shift does not weaken fathers.

    It strengthens their influence.

    Introducing ROOTED MEN™: Fatherhood, Identity & Legacy.

    ROOTED MEN™ is an interactive session created by Intentional Parenting for African fathers in the UK.

    The workshop helps fathers to:

    📝Understand their role beyond financial provision.

    🇬🇧Navigate cultural expectations with intention.

    🧑‍🧑‍🧒‍🧒Build stronger relationships with their children.

    🔑Address anger, stress, and emotional withdrawal.

    💯Define the legacy they want to leave

    During the workshop, fathers are introduced to the ROOTED™ framework, a practical model for intentional parenting in the diaspora.

    This framework allows fathers to honour African values while parenting effectively in the UK context.

    “Legacy Is Not What You Leave Behind — It’s Who You Raise”

    One of the most powerful moments in the ROOTED MEN™ workshop is the Legacy Letter, where fathers reflect on this question:

    “When my child is 25, what do I want them to say about me as their father?”

    This exercise shifts fatherhood from survival mode to legacy thinking — helping men parent with clarity, intention, and long-term vision.

    African fathers deserve spaces that are:

    Respectful, Culturally grounded, Honest and Practical.

    That is exactly what ROOTED MEN™ offers.

    About Intentional Parenting.

    Intentional Parenting is a UK-based parenting education initiative supporting African families to raise confident, rooted children while building generational legacies in the diaspora.

    Through workshops, resources, and community programmes, we help parents navigate culture, identity, safeguarding, and emotional wellbeing with intention.

    About the Facilitator.

    Fadzai is a UK-based parenting educator, speaker, and founder of Intentional Parenting. She supports African families in the UK to raise confident, emotionally secure children while building strong generational legacies through culturally grounded parenting education.

    Final Word to Fathers.

    📌You don’t need to be perfect.

    💯You need to be present.

    🌟Strong families don’t happen by accident.

    ❤️They are built by intentional men.

  • Connected parenting

    Guide for African Migrant Parents: Staying Connected to Your Teenagers

    Parenting as an African migrant comes with unique challenges, especially when raising teenagers in a new culture. Balancing traditional values with the realities of life abroad can create tension, but staying connected with your teen is vital for their growth and maintaining a strong family bond. Here’s a practical guide to help:

    1. Understand Their World

    • Learn About the Local Culture

    Take time to understand the culture your teen is growing up in. This will help you better comprehend their challenges and pressures, such as peer relationships, school dynamics, or social norms.

    Tip: Attend school events or community activities to observe and engage with their environment.

    • Stay Updated on Trends

    Be aware of what interests them—social media, music, fashion, or sports. Ask them about what’s popular and listen without judgment.

    Example: “What’s your favorite app these days? Can you show me how it works?”

    2. Communicate Openly and Often

    • Create a Safe Space

    Teens may hesitate to open up if they fear judgment or punishment. Show empathy and listen without interruption.

    Example: “I may not fully understand, but I want to hear how you feel.”

    • Be Consistent with Check-ins

    Regularly ask about their day, friendships, and feelings. Make conversations a habit, not just when there’s a problem.

    Tip: Have chats during shared activities like cooking, driving, or walking. Eat at the table away from TV and gadgets.

    3. Blend Cultures Positively

    • Teach Them Your Heritage

    Share stories, traditions, and values from your African roots to give them a sense of identity and pride.

    Example: Celebrate cultural festivals or cook traditional meals together. Attend local festivals such as The Zim Heritage Festival, more details here

    • Embrace Their New Environment

    Allow your teen to explore and adopt aspects of their current culture while guiding them to balance both worlds.

    Tip: Celebrate achievements that matter to them, whether it’s excelling in school or pursuing a hobby. Enrol them in after school activities eg sports, drama. You can google your local area or ask your school for some guidance. If you live in Buckinghamshire, you can check the family information website here

    4. Show Affection and Encouragement

    • Acknowledge Their Efforts

    Praise their achievements and effort, no matter how small. Teens crave validation from their parents.

    Example: “I’m proud of how you handled that situation with your friend.”

    • Offer Emotional and Physical Support

    Be available when they’re stressed or need comfort. A simple hug or reassuring words can mean a lot.

    5. Set Boundaries with Love

    • Balance Discipline with Understanding

    Explain the reasoning behind rules instead of enforcing them without context.

    Example: “I’m asking you to come home by 9 PM because I worry about your safety.”

    • Be Flexible When Necessary

    While it’s important to uphold family values, adjust your expectations to fit their realities.

    6. Be Involved in Their Education

    • Engage with Their School Life

    Attend parent-teacher meetings and know their academic strengths and challenges. Show interest in their goals.

    Tip: Ask how you can support them with their studies or extracurricular activities.

    • Encourage Lifelong Learning

    Help them see the value of education, whether academic, vocational, or personal development. Share your own experiences of perseverance. Read together as families. Watch documentaries that are informative and educational.

    7. Handle Conflicts with Care

    • Avoid Comparisons

    Don’t compare them to peers or other teenagers eg. cousins years in Africa. This can make them feel misunderstood.

    • Resolve Disagreements Calmly

    When arguments arise, take a step back to cool off before discussing solutions. Apologize if needed; it models respect and humility.

    8. Build a Support Network

    • Connect with Other Parents

    Join local community groups or parenting networks to share experiences and advice. We have a whatsapp community here at Intentional Parenting to offer support and guidance.

    • Involve Mentors or Elders

    Trusted community members or family friends can reinforce values and offer guidance to your teen.

    9. Foster Independence

    • Give Them Responsibility

    Encourage them to make decisions and learn from their mistakes. This builds confidence.

    • Prepare Them for the Future

    Talk about career paths, finances, and life skills to help them transition into adulthood.

    10. Take Care of Yourself

    • Manage Your Stress

    Parenting is demanding, especially in a new country. Seek support if needed through community resources or counseling. Local authority are also good places to get help. Please don’t stew in your problems with your children.

    For a confidential and non judgemental chat, reach out to Fadzai click here. You can find out more about Fadzai

    • Model Healthy Behavior

    Teens often emulate their parents. Show resilience, adaptability, and a willingness to learn.

    Final Thoughts

    Building a strong relationship with your teenager takes time, patience, and effort. By combining the wisdom of your African heritage with the opportunities of your new environment, you can raise confident, well-rounded children who appreciate their roots and thrive in their new home.

    Wishing you every success in this journey!

    Remain Intentional

    Fadzai 🌱

  • Parenting support and services

    Support for Parents Who Want Calm, Confidence and Connection.

    Parenting is one of the most important roles we hold — yet many parents are left navigating it alone, unsure whether they’re doing “enough” or responding in the right way.

    Intentional Parenting was created to change that.

    I’m Fadzai, a parenting consultant, safeguarding lead and community builder. Through Intentional Parenting, I support parents who want to raise emotionally secure, resilient children while building calm, connected family life.

    This space is for parents who are not looking for perfection — but for clarity, confidence and practical support that fits real life.

    What Is Intentional Parenting?

    Intentional parenting is about making thoughtful choices, even in the middle of busy, messy family life.

    It’s about:

    Understanding behaviour rather than reacting to it. Strengthening communication and emotional connection. Parenting in line with your values, not pressure or fear. Creating safe, supportive environments where children can thrive.

    At Intentional Parenting, support is compassionate, practical and grounded in real-world parenting challenges.

    How I Support Parents

    My work focuses on four key areas of parenting support:

    🌿 Emotional Wellbeing & Behaviour

    Helping parents understand emotions, manage challenging behaviour and reduce overwhelm at home.

    🗣 Communication & Connection

    Supporting stronger relationships through calm communication, boundaries and repair after conflict.

    🧭 Intentional Parenting & Family Life

    Helping parents move from reactive parenting to intentional routines, rhythms and values-led family life.

    🛡 Safeguarding & Family Safety

    Supporting parents to confidently protect their children’s wellbeing through everyday safeguarding and early support.

    These services are offered through 1:1 parenting coaching, group cohorts, community spaces and workshops.

    A Different Kind of Parenting Support.

    Intentional Parenting is not about quick fixes or one-size-fits-all advice.

    It is about:

    Walking alongside parents. Creating space for reflection and growth. Offering tools that work in everyday family life. Supporting parents before challenges become crises.

    Parents come for support at all stages — whether navigating early childhood, school transitions, adolescence, or simply wanting to parent with more intention.

    Join the Intentional Parenting Community

    Alongside coaching and services, Fadzai also offers community-based support through spaces such as The 6AM Collective — a reflective parenting community offering connection, prayer, learning cohorts and shared growth.

    You’re welcome to engage at your own pace, in a way that supports your family.

    Start Here

    If you’re ready to explore parenting support that feels grounded, respectful and practical, you’re in the right place.

    👉 Explore parenting coaching : here

    👉 Join the community :Whatsapp

    👉 Read the latest blog posts on this platform

    You don’t have to do parenting alone — and you don’t have to do it perfectly.

  • #Momofteens

    What have I learnt on raising teen so far?

    – Awe

    Yes you will be filled with awe on how tall, beautiful they have grown. You will catch your breath a few times. You will be amazed at their thinking and outlook on life.

    –Love

    Your love language will change. You will learn to express your love, appreciation and gratitude in a different way as teens are not keen on showing emotions. You will love them on most days and want to kill them on others. Know the difference.

    –Fear

    It will creep on you from most angles. If it’s not their friends, the school or community it will be the local and world news. Choose faith. Have faith in your child and your parenting skills. God qualified you for the job. Own it.

     

    –weight

    Yoh will gain, I believe from worry, lack of sleep or early menopause.Or it could be simply from leading a sedentary life. Those school runs, after school activities not only keep them busy but helps the mamas too.  Which ever way, you will be be lovely to cuddle.

     

    -Freedom

    Yes, you will have the new found freedom to have lie ins, meet friends and do other things. It will surely happen. Let your teens see you happy and use your spare time effectively . If you are like me who started the parenting game early, travel and see the world. Go for that dinner date without feeling guilty.

    Anything else you can add?

    Do you have teens? Would love to hear from you!

    Remain in the game

    Love Fadzi xx

     

     

     

  • Empowering the Next Generation: Financial Wellness Workshop for Young Adults 

    At Intentional Parenting, we’re thrilled to be partnering with the brilliant team at MoneyHeave to host an Online Financial Wellness Workshop specially designed for young people aged 16years and over. Whether your teen or young adult is preparing for university, starting college, finishing uni, starting formal employment, entering an apprenticeship, or figuring out how to earn and save as they go—this session is for them.

    📅 Date: 21/08/2025

    🕒 Time: 7pm-8:30pm

    📍 Location: Online (Zoom link provided upon registration)

    💷 Cost: Free (but early registration is required). Register here today.

    Why does finance matter for young people of African heritage in UK?

    Many young adults start their financial journeys with little to no guidance. Between part-time jobs, student loans, overdrafts, and peer pressure to spend, it’s easy to make choices that lead to long-term financial stress.

    This workshop offers a judgment-free, practical space to:

    -Learn the basics of budgeting, saving, and spending wisely.

    -Understand student finance, grants, and apprenticeships.

    -Build confidence in setting financial goals.

    – Discuss real-world money scenarios relevant to youth culture.

    With expert facilitation from MoneyHeave known for their culturally aware and youth-focused financial education, participants will walk away with tools they can use immediately—whether they’re buying groceries at uni or saving for their first car.

    Smart Money Strategies for young adults:

    Here are a few tips we’ll unpack during the session:

    1. Create a “Needs vs. Wants” Budget

    Prioritise rent, transport, and essentials before splurging. Use digital budgeting tools (e.g., Emma, Monzo) to track your habits.

    2. Make the Most of Student Discounts

    Use your student ID or UNiDAYS app for savings on travel, food, books, and more.

    3. Avoid High-Interest Credit Traps

    Understand how overdrafts and credit cards work before using them. Ask questions: Nothing is too basic when it comes to your money.

    4. Set Weekly Spending Limits

    Break your term’s income into weekly allowances. Keep an emergency fund—even if it’s just £50.

    5. Explore Side Hustles Carefully

    Learn how to balance work and study. Know your rights around minimum wage and working hours.

    Why Migrant Parents Should Encourage Their kids to Attend?

    For many migrant families, talking about money openly isn’t always the norm. But our children are growing up in a different financial landscape—one that requires financial literacy from a younger age.

    Here’s why your child should attend:

    ✅ Bridge the Cultural Gap: Many young people raised in the UK face unique financial pressures—especially those navigating between African cultural expectations and Western lifestyles.

    ✅Managing and dealing with black tax and the bank of Parents.

    ✅ Prevent Costly Mistakes: Mismanaging finances in early adulthood can lead to debt and stress. This session gives them a head start.

    ✅ Learn What You Didn’t Get to Learn: As migrant parents, we may not have had financial education in school. This is an opportunity to give our children what we may have missed.

    ✅ Prepare for Independence: Whether they’re living away for university or staying at home during an apprenticeship, financial independence is key to adulthood.

    ✅ Encourage Confidence, Not Fear: When young people understand money, they’re more likely to make empowered choices, ask questions, and avoid shame or secrecy around financial struggles.

    Register here

    Zoom link will be sent out on the 18th of August via email address provided on registration.

    Please share this opportunity with your child, nieces, nephews, and godchildren. A 90-minute session could set them up for a lifetime of smarter choices.

    Final Thoughts

    Empowering our young people with financial knowledge is one of the greatest gifts we can give. This isn’t just a “money talk”—it’s a legacy-building workshop rooted in practical, accessible advice.

    With MoneyHeave’s expertise and Intentional Parenting’s culturally relevant approach, this is one online session you won’t want your child to miss.

    Let’s equip the next generation to thrive financially.

    Any comments, suggestions, queries please do email info@intentionalparentinguk.org

    Here is to flourishing and impacting next generation.

    Every blessing

    Fadzi

  • Miles for Mind

    2026 loading bolder, strategic and impactful! Watch the space

    Miles for Minds: Walk & Thrive – Migrant Mental Health Awareness Challenge

    We are really excited to have you join us for the walking challenge this May!

    Walking challenge:

    In a bid to encourage better mental health, we are encouraging MIGRANT parents to participate in the 10k steps a day challenge. You can add this up through jogging, skipping etc. As parents the struggles of raising children in diaspora can impact greatly on your overall well being.

    For those of us who are migrants, the challenges with our mental health is even greater. The stresses of travel and living in a different culture and society cannot be under estimated. World Health Organisation advocates for good mental well being for migrants and refugees, WHO.

    Walking as a form of exercise is well researched to aid good mental wellness. We have chosen walking as its low impact and we want to incorporate meditation into that walking space. More details on the benefits of walking are here

    We are keen to hear and engage fathers, migrant men on this challenge.How are they coping with stresses of living abroad? Please do invite the male figures in your life. For ideas/ comments/ suggestions do get in touch here

    Campaign Objective:

    To promote mental wellness among migrants through daily walking, peer connection, and storytelling, while raising awareness and reducing stigma around migrant mental health issues.

    Target Audience:

    Migrants and refugees in the UK, African and ethnic minority communities, Mental health allies, professionals, and local councils Employers and community organisations.

    Duration:

    1st – 31st May (Mental Health Awareness Month)

    Core Activities:

    Daily Walking Challenge: Participants aim to walk at least 5,000–10,000 steps a day. You can track and share progress via our Strava community or WhatsApp group using the hashtag #MilesForMinds.

    You can join the walking challenge from anywhere. We encourage you to find times that suit you and share your step count with us for motivation and encouragement on strava . You can also join our Facebook page if you prefer.

    On the last Saturday of the month which is 30th, weather permitting we are meeting in Buckinghamshire to celebrate our wins! More details to be shared on Strava.

    2- Meditation Journal

    Yes we have taken to journaling this month as well as part of mental health first aid. For those who believe in the power of God’s word, this is a resource for you. Click here to download the 31day journal that we will be using throughout this month.

    The journal is there to prompt you to take 5mins and jot down how the day went for you. Please use this as part of self care. It’s key to CREATE that 5mins to write down how your day has been.

    We want to demonstrate to our children how we take care of ourselves and that we take mental wellness seriously. Identifying and naming your feelings and emotions is paramount in taking care of your mental health.

    Affirmations

    Others may prefer affirmations to journaling. Feel free to use those above or find an alternative.

    3- MEET UPS

    We are meeting up on the 24th in Milton keynes for a garden workshop. Registration is mandatory and closes on the 15th of May to help with planning. If interested, do register via link or QR code below.

    4- Group walking

    We are going to be using Strava to encourage each other, have a lead board and share some insight. Can’t wait! Please do sign up here and get acquainted to our Strava group ; Miles for Mind.. 😍

    5- Community

    Intentional Parenting UK is home to BOLD and courageous parents. Our 6am community is a place of growing and drawing strength from the giver of all that is good is perfect. We believe in creating SAFE spaces for parents to flourish and that takes intentionality and a willingness to WORK!

    We welcome parents with a heart of service, open minded and who DARE to live unapologetic in their convictions and beliefs. We are not a platform for people who want to watch/ observe or just sit, be prepared to put in the work and this means engaging with other parents contributing to this growing community.

    Check out the rest of our blog on all thing intentional Parenting.

    📌This year promises to be amazing. Do express interest here and will send you the strava link as well to join the walking community.

    Do follow us on facebook and instagram

    Every blessing

    Fadzi x